i think you're on the right track in seeing that a single person won't be all things to you, and that finding people that speaks to certain parts of you is probably your best bet. my wingman friends aren't my 401K friends aren't my shared-family-trauma friends aren't my get-fucked-up-on-vacation friends aren't my Type-A friends etc. the best we can do is build a village for all the facets of who we are.
you're complex -- it's the struggle of being human.
OK, as someone who has lived in NY for nearly 14 years and has always wanted to live (somewhat) in LA, I appreciate this. Every single (unambiguous) black woman I've heard has told me that same experience of LA, and it's disheartening, but I also don't limit my dating pool to BM (just other NBPOC because 🌾 are not the business for me), so I'm curious to see how that experience is with BW.
I lived in LA for a little less than two years and much of what you said rang true for me as well.
both cities can be very lonely.
i think you're on the right track in seeing that a single person won't be all things to you, and that finding people that speaks to certain parts of you is probably your best bet. my wingman friends aren't my 401K friends aren't my shared-family-trauma friends aren't my get-fucked-up-on-vacation friends aren't my Type-A friends etc. the best we can do is build a village for all the facets of who we are.
you're complex -- it's the struggle of being human.
OK, as someone who has lived in NY for nearly 14 years and has always wanted to live (somewhat) in LA, I appreciate this. Every single (unambiguous) black woman I've heard has told me that same experience of LA, and it's disheartening, but I also don't limit my dating pool to BM (just other NBPOC because 🌾 are not the business for me), so I'm curious to see how that experience is with BW.